My best poem has to be desiderata BY Max Ehrrman. A poem written in 1927 and it is the most wholesome piece I ever read, fundamental to all aspects of life.The last verse is as follows.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
This has been a year with major transitions in my life and so much healing had to take place. Healing is crucial for you to forge on and most importantly forgiveness. Forgive people who will never apologize to you because that is how they are.
I was having coffee with my uncle Sam. This is an uncle of value in my life and while talking about forgiveness, this is the story that made me write this piece. We know of a lady called Catherine. She was a warm lady with infectious laughter and a business mogul. She owns a couple of shops in the CBD (central business district) and Catherine was in her mid thirties, married and with a 5 year old daughter. Life doesn’t guarantee you anything so when you’re successful keep pride at bay and when it knocks you down, you’re in perfect position to pray and know that you’re where you are because of Gods’ grace and mercy. Catherine’s business collapsed but luckily she had constructed her home, her residence with no support from the husband but does it matter? You are a single entity in papers and according to God but I can hear slay queens whispering ” get a life Twally.”
Catherine stood with the man even when the universe seemed to be against him. Love makes you do crazy things and the heart can kill you faster than a bullet. So one day, Kate scrolls on Matt’s laptop and his Facebook account was still active and we all know phones and laptops are weapons to most relationships. Truth will always be out anyway. Curiosity kills the cat they say, but curiosity kills people in love the most. Women have power with intuition and I wish we would learn to follow them. Her instinct was to ignore the messages but the mind wanted to contend with the heart and this battle is lost mostly if you follow the latter. Kate had to be the bigger cat and allow death to follow her and it literally did. She was shocked to the bone and she couldn’t believe what she saw because there’s no greater pain as being faithful to an adulterer. DO NOT COMMIT ADULTERY it is in the commandments and in Quran, Do not even come close to Zinaa.
Kate decided to confront Matt and this is a bad idea because expect two things: 1. He/She will deny after getting caught. 2. ) He/She will show no remorse and this pain can numb you. caring while someone else doesn’t care at all. The man, Matt…chose to go with number 2. Kate then needed mediation from her mother in law and this one person who was supposed to raise this man in a proper manner said ” even if you built a house, don’t yell at my son. Calculate the amount used for the construction materials and we will repay your money but let my son do as he pleases.” This woman reminds of an actress, patience. The mother in law who finds joy with your pain. This broke her to the core. Comfort, you’ll get when you run to mummy. Kate’s mum was a bishop and she asked her daughter to go back home. When life gets real, believe me home is where you belong. East or west, home is the best. After a week, Kate’s daughter goes to wake up her mum because grandma asked her to. She goes back and tell cucu (grandma), that mummy is deep asleep. Kate’s mum then goes to the room only to find a cold body and pills on the pillow. Her being a pastor, even speaking in tongues wouldn’t salvage the situation. Kate was in depression the whole time. Mental health is an issue to many and faces have masks. Smiles hide the most pain. People who appear to be happy the most have the most scars. Checking up on people has become grace. It is well with my soul is mostly associated with a title of a song. It is well with my soul is the song that accompanied her to the grave.
My point is, people will hurt you but master the art of letting of go. It is a mastery which few people can handle. People you thought would be there for you will leave but its okay because God is teaching you the need to fully rely on Him and not on people.
When life throws lemon at you, find solace with the words that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be and it is well with my soul. Marriage issues will be there and allow God to fight for you knowing that whatever the outcome, it is well with my soul. A man or your lady has disapointed you, it will definitely break you and you’ll fall apart but don’t allow it to consume you… it is well with your soul. A dead beat dad has done you wrong and doesn’t support your kids, they will grow up to be bigger than your expectations and it shall be well with your soul. Remember though, it shall only be well with your soul after you have forgiven and also forgive yourself for allowing people to use you and abuse you. Healing is a process and this too shall pass. Guess what, It shall be well with your soul.GOD WILL BRING YOU BACK TOGETHER RIGHT IN FRONT OF THE PEOPLE THAT BROKE YOU.
When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,
It is well, it is well with my soul
It is well with my soul,
It is well, it is well with my soul.
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It shall be well with your soul. Forgive and believe hat vengeance belongs to God. Let go of everyone and start over again for it is okay not to be okay but it gets better. Everyday above the ground is a blessing and as long as you’re still breathing, God isn’t done with you yet. Every single day is a day to start over just like how the sun rises and let go of pain, anger and disappointments from human beings just like the sun sets.